In the midst of the hustle and bustle of the season of love, it’s easy to forget the most important facet of the subject: self-love. There should never be a time constraint on this necessity. It can be hard to show up for ourselves if we are not accustomed to it. Sometimes we spend most of our time showing up for others, but find that we feel neglected or need a break. How can you foster love for others if you are already hanging by a thread? 

Self-love manifests in different ways for different people, but here is a list of some activities that might help based off of an interview conducted among the NBPL staff:

  • Watching a show or movie
  • Taking time to be alone
  • Hanging out with good, positive company
  • Attending a therapy session
  • Practicing self-care such as doing face masks, getting a haircut, or getting nails done
  • Exercising or taking a nature walk or stretching
  • Being intentional about setting responsibilities aside to focus on self
  • Making a list of affirmations and speaking them out loud
  • Reading a book
  • Staying in bed or sleeping in 
  • Eating yummy meals or snacks
  • Making time for hobbies

If you are having a hard time showing up for yourself, just know it is never too late to start. Here are some books that may help you on your journey of self-love:

  • The Comfort Book by Matt Haig
  • The Book of Boundaries: Set the Limits that Will Set You Free by Melissa Urban
  • Sleep Prescription: Seven Days to Unlocking Your Best Rest by Aric A. Prather
  • Make Your Bed: Small Things That Can Change Your Life…And Maybe the World by William H. McRaven
  • Life in Five Senses by Gretchen Rubin
  • How to Keep House While Drowning by KC Davis
  • Self-Care Cross-Stitch: 40 Uplifting and Irreverent Patterns by Stephanie Rohr
  • Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brené Brown
  • You Are a Badass by Jen Sincero